I know so many of us will relate to this one. You’ve done the reading, listened to the podcasts, figured out your attachment style… and yet, the patterns are still there. The same dynamics keep showing up. It can feel really frustrating, like you understand yourself well, but you’re still a bit stuck. So what’s going on? Let me introduce… intellectualising as a defence mechanism . It’s something I see a lot in therapy, and something many of us do without even realising. What